A Friend

The Sandbox Writing Challenge Bonus Question — Friends

Posted by calensariel in Blogging, Challenges, Journaling, Prompts & Exercises, Reflections, Sandbox Writing Challenge 2018                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      A Friend

do you have a friend

that’s bound in a cocoon

living on egg-shells

broken by sickly X-ray beams

their life’s virtual hell

and for whom you want to scream

unconditionally you’ve given your love

now they’re tired


for help

from above


Ivor Steven (c)  2018

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G'day, and welcome to my blog site. My name is Ivor Steven, I live in Geelong, Australia. I'm an ex-industrial chemist, and a retired plumber, and a former Carer of my wife(Carole), for 30 years, who suffered from severe MS. I Write poetry about those personal thoughts, throughout and beyond my life as a Carer. I've been blogging for over 2 years, and writing poems for 19 years. Of course a lot of my poems are about my favourite subject Carole, but since I've been blogging my writings have become quite varied, humourous, mystical, observational, and even a few monster/horror poems.

45 thoughts on “A Friend”

  1. I sure do. My brother-in-law… Breaks my heart. And now that I have this stupid Myasthenia Gravis I can’t even help him and my sister out much… Makes you feel kind of worthless.

    Btw, you did the pingback perfectly, Ivor! It put it in the comment section on the post, right where it’s supposed to be! You’re a fast learner!

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    1. Yes, I think we all end having someone close to us in this situation, and that is what I trying to bring into reality, and that feeling of being worthless/helpless is a rotten emotion, but please don’t be hard on yourself, just give your sister and brother-in-law all the love you have. xxx

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  2. Reblogged this on Niki Flow and commented:
    Ivor this prompted a long response — hope you don’t mind. I think it’s something we all struggle with in different ways.

    I’ve thought about this a lot, both as a caregiver for years and someone who needed care.) I don’t know your circumstances, and whether this friend is still in your life and whether you still feel this helplessness. But so many of us face this when — inevitably — people we love get sick.

    I felt this way when my strong dad got sick. He lived over 80 years, bigger than life. He was our bulwark. It wasn’t until he got really ill that my dad (step-dad who raised me from age 5) and I spent time together and really became close. He lived another ten years, not the same as his first 82, but they were filled with beautiful moments of joy and love.

    Life changes all of us. It’s come full circle, and now I get help from my youngest son. I hope to fully recover, but one never knows. This life is one I definitely don’t recognize but there is still so much to be grateful for every day.

    You may think you are helpless, my friend, but I can guarantee that the kindness and love you give to anyone who is suffering will be enough. I have been very lonely as I struggled to get well. So much of my self-esteem was tied up in my paycheck, my skills, and my appearance. Now – it’s all changed.

    A kind word is precious, as healing as any pill. More healing, so I believe. So keep shining your light, being kind, open and authentic. Keep sharing your words. Keep reaching out. This heals hearts. When our hearts are healed, we believe we can get well again. Connection is everything.

    Thank you Ivor for your heart-felt post.

    ♥. Niki

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    1. Oh Niki, thank you for your wonderful reply. I’m just home from my Thursday night social drink with some of my dear friends, and yes they are so important to my well being. And I understand how circumstances in life do change for us.
      I won’t go into all the details of my situation, I cared for my wife for 30 years, she had severe MS, and I try to impart my Life’s experience through my poems, and hopefully readers (like You) are able to associate with my humble writings, and maybe my words might be of some comfort to them, and let them know they’re not alone…xx


    1. Thank you for your comments, and thanks for following my blog/website, muchly appreciated, I hope you enjoy reading my humble writings, and I’m from Geelong, Australia, Cheers. Ivor 🌏

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  3. you could be writing about any one of my patients Ivor, they relinquish the rights to basic things we take for granted. And the friends that come together to rally support shows me how invincible the human spirit can still be when faced with such sadness and hopelessness. you write this with a lot of empathy.

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    1. It wasn’t a poem about anybody in particular, I had been going to quite a few funerals lately, and they’d been in that suffering situation, The words were deep from my heart for those people.

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    1. It’s a theme that we all can relate too, and it was a very personal poem at the time I wrote the words, and It was only recently I started to realise it’s a worthy and stand alone poem. xxx

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      1. Thanks Kate, you and other friends on wordpress have been very supportive and that has definitely helped with my confidence levels towards my writings and for that I’m always very grateful.

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