Did Your Heart Stop Too?

Ten years ago today, it was the “Time” that I made a “heart stopping decision”

Did Your Heart Stop Too?

Did you cry too?

When the doctors told you

She was not going to recover

Did they ask you too?

About what you already knew

It was time

To flick the switch

And dim her light

Did your heart stop too?


You had emptied her shoes

Did you sleep there too?

During those infinite days of blue

Softly holding her hand

And not letting go

Did you weep too?

Blankly alone

In her full room


For her last silent breath

Ivor Steven (c) April 27th 2022

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G'day, and welcome to my blog site. My name is Ivor Steven, I live in Geelong, Australia. I'm an ex-industrial chemist, and a retired plumber, and a former Carer of my wife(Carole), for 30 years, who suffered from severe MS. I Write poetry about those personal thoughts, throughout and beyond my life as a Carer. I've been blogging for over 2 years, and writing poems for 19 years. Of course a lot of my poems are about my favourite subject Carole, but since I've been blogging my writings have become quite varied, humourous, mystical, observational, and even a few monster/horror poems.

66 thoughts on “Did Your Heart Stop Too?”

  1. It’s always hard, making these, decisions, to take the ones we live off of, life-support, and yet, the, alternative for those we love, suffering longer, is, way worse than, deciding, to, pull the, plug…

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  2. My tears are flowing. Such a difficult heart-breaking day for you.
    In this poem you captured the day with great love and compassion, Ivor.
    Carole’s photos is so sweet!
    And the song you chose is so right. What a powerful heart-touching song and visuals.
    πŸ’œ πŸ’œ πŸ’œ

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    1. I tried holding back the tears .. it hasn’t worked … I’m ok, .. at least another week to go anyhow .. …haha .. if it doesn’t rain , it pours .. πŸ€—πŸ’›πŸ˜‰

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  3. Far away in a different hemisphere and another part of the world, your thoughts touched me this morning. Thank you for sharing. Your decision must have been difficult, but you knew it was the right thing to do. Peace and strength with you today, tomorrow, and all the tomorrows.

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    1. Thank you VJ .. I am so pleased my emotional poem is relatable and meaningful …. I was just trying to express the reality of the situation πŸ’•πŸ€—β€οΈ

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    1. Thank you Cindy .. expressing these emotions in words is almost impossible… but I think my poem is close to how I felt back then πŸ’•πŸ€—πŸ˜Šβ€οΈ

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  4. Ivor, a precious experience.! Twenty years ago, I felt privileged to be holding my husband’s hand in his last moments. I have never regretted respecting his wishes to not prolong his suffering. You were always there for Carole when she needed you, including in this final loving moment.

    A very sensitive and beautiful tribute to love. ❀ ❀ ❀

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    1. Thank you for your kindness… the emotions of, life, love, and death all flowed through my heart on that day πŸ’•β€οΈ


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